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For those of us who have a relative with a disability, one of the most pressing questions we face is: "What will happen to our family member when I die?" PALS helps answer that question.

What is PALS?
Why PALS?
How can PALS help you?
What is a Future Plan?
What is a Personal Support Network?
What does a Personal Support Network do?
How are Personal Support Networks developed and maintained?
How long does it take?
Who are the Network Members?
What does it take to become a PALS, Inc. network member??
What are the limitations of personal networks?
What are the benefits of establishing a personal network for my family member when I am still alive?

What is PALS? top

Personal Advocacy and Lifetime Support, Inc. (PALS, Inc.) is a non-profit organization started in 1998, by a group of parents with adult sons and daughters with special needs. PALS, Inc. is adapted from a similar program, Planned Lifetime Advocacy Network (PLAN) started by parents in Canada in 1989.

The PALS, Inc. goal is twofold: to ensure a safe and secure future for your relative with special needs and to provide you and your loved one with peace of mind. This is accomplished by providing advocacy and friendship in the present, and in the future, when primary care givers are no longer able to do so.

Why PALS? top

We help you create a plan for the future that provides for the safety, security and well-being of your loved one. A plan that ensures that they will not only have access to the programs and services they need, but that they will be surrounded by a loving and caring network of friends.

We've learned a lot since PALS was founded in 1998. One of the things we've learned is that when families start making plans for the future, they also start changing the present. So when you join PALS you're not only safeguarding your relative's future but helping them create a good life today.

How can PALS help you? top

  • To create a Future Plan

  • To develop a Personal Support Network

  • To sustain the Personal Support Network into the future

What is a Future Plan? top

A future plan involves gathering information on the family and the family member with disabilities. PALS helps the family complete a comprehensive information organizer and write up a Vision Statement, based on medical, vocational, financial, housing, recreational and behavioral information. (If a Person Centered Plan has already been developed, it can be used as a tool when starting to activate your Personal Support Network, in the Exploratory Stage.) A work plan is developed with time lines, goals and a list of potential Network members.

What is a Personal Support Network? top

Personal Support Networks are a natural part of life. They consist of the ongoing relationships we share with family, friends and colleagues. People start building circles of friendships in childhood and continue to do so lifelong. The quality and variety of your Personal Support Network is one measure of the richness and social stability in your life. Many people with special needs are unable to initiate and maintain networks, becoming isolated and lonely, which is unnatural and unhealthy.

When a person is isolated or vulnerable by reason of disability, opportunity or society's perception, their networks are often small or non-existent. PALS nurtures the development of a personal network of committed men and women who join together in a relationship with the individual and with each other.


Each member of the network has formed a relationship with the person at its centre and with other members of the network. Through the relationship, members offer support, monitoring, advocacy, companionship and caring.

Developing a personal network is the foundation of your future plan. Network members contribute to the quality of your relative's life now, as they prepare for their role after you are gone.

What does a Personal Support Network do? top

Networks ensure a safe and secure future for your relative by contributing to the quality of their life now. They do this by:

  • Creating a "safety net" where key players are informed

  • Providing links to others in the community

  • Advocating on behalf of your relative

  • Securing and monitoring supports and services

  • Providing a forum for network members to support one another

  • Providing security and a sense of relief for all family members

  • Acting as a resource for executors and trustees

  • Acting as representatives and supporting decision-making

  • Planning, dreaming, socializing and having fun

How are Personal Support Networks developed and maintained? top

Each Personal Support Network is unique in terms of vision, values, cost and the time it takes to implement it. PALS, Inc. hires people with strong community connections as Facilitators, whom families contract with for services. PALS, Inc. recruits, trains and supervises the Facilitator and monitors the development of each Network.

Several Network meetings are held. The potential Network members process the vision statement and provide input. The Facilitator speaks with each person and gradually specific voluntary activities are scheduled.

Once the Personal Support Network has achieved self-sufficiency and cohesion, the Facilitator will continue to provide oversight of Network activities, at the family’s request.

How long does it take?  top

Established networks average two to three hours of connector time per month.

The time for connecting networks varies. Influencing factors include:

  • How easy it is to get to know you and your relative

  • Connections you and your relative already have

  • What your relative currently does and wants to do

  • Changes in your relative's circumstances

  • Change among network members

  • How much involvement families want the facilitator to have

Who are the Network Members? top

Network members are people of all ages, who commit to engage with the person with special needs over time. They can include family members, neighbors, former staff, old and new friends and community members. They may have a special interest in health, housing, advocacy, continuing education, recreation or the arts. Or they may simply be attempting to enrich their own lives, by giving their time to others. We have found people with mild special needs, senior citizens, teenagers, college students, aunts and uncles, cousins, siblings, and professionals of all kinds who are interested in participating on Personal Support Networks. It takes time for friendships to develop. You can find potential network members in religious congregations, service clubs and leisure/recreation groups. Virtually anyone can become a member of a Personal Support Network, providing they have an interest in the focus person.

What does it take to become a PALS network member? top

  • Desire to have another friend

  • Willingness to spend a few hours with someone who really likes you and wants to be with you

  • Recognition that it is the quality and diversity of our relationships that are the measure of our lives

What are the limitations of personal networks? top

Personal networks do not work miracles. They require hard work, perseverance and commitment. Personal networks are no guarantee that all will be well. A lifetime of isolation or loneliness cannot be overcome immediately. New contacts take time to develop into nurturing relationships. The process can be slow and it may seem at first as if nothing is happening. But even though results may take time, pleasant surprises occur frequently. Check out the stories in the Member Stories Folder.

What are the benefits of establishing a personal network for my family member while I am still alive?? top

Establishing a personal network now:

  • Gives you the opportunity to share your knowledge of the best interests of your family member  with the people you are counting on to support them in the future

  • Allows you to see your relative flourish socially and emotionally

  • Helps you prepare your relative for the changes that will occur when you can no longer help

  • Enables you to shape and define the nature of the personal network and to see if fully functioning while you are alive

  • Enables PALS to have the detailed background and familiarity it needs to become an effective advocate for your relative

  • Gives you security, relief and peace of mind